Some bonds never break!

In a world where we let go of things and people almost regularly there are some bonds that never break.  I realized this when my only sister got married and moved to another country. We were friends since birth, and like most sister have shared everything from our room to clothes to make up to everything. Also like all normal sisters we fought like crazy over the smallest things. Despite the fact that both of us are very different we get along pretty well. We had the craziest times together and any memory which contains laughing till my stomach hurt she definitely is part of it. Everything was fine and good and then she found her Mr. Right and got married and shifted to a different country. In the beginning I honestly didn't really feel that she left. I conveniently packed her things and made the room all mine. Somewhere I even tried to replace her with my best friend. I started talking to her a lot more than my sister and tried sharing everything with her instead of my sister. Then slowly I started to miss my sister, when she wasn't around whenever I had to gossip or share something funny. When I had to check the time difference  and her online whatsapp timing to msg her. Whenever I saw other sister shopping and having a good time. For an instance I thought I lost her, I became angry and cried and didn't know what to do. But then one day something big happened in my life and I msgd her without looking at time and she was there for me just like old times. She listened to me advised me and tried to solve everything like she always did. It was then and there that I realized that I haven't lost my sister she is right where she was. She might not be physical present around me all the time but she still holds the same place in my life. No matter how much I hide her things and try to replace her it is not possible. I realized that some bonds can not be broken with distance' time or changes they remain the same because those are the true relationships in your life. Those are the people you can depend on FOREVER.

Life! Oh so weird

Life is weird and twisted, sometimes you just do not get it. Sometimes, you come to peace with your worst enemy because you realize you have been blaming the wrong person all along. Sometimes, you let go of the things you once loved the most because you now know they were not good for you. At times you drift apart from the people you were closest to because they only dragged you down. Life is weird and it comes with no manual but as you grow up you come across different situations and the most important thing is to learn a lesson from everything that happens. To get through life do not depend on anyone else but yourself. Make yourself strong enough to get through any situation and when life becomes weird know how to handle it with courage and strength.

Crazy Fashion

Who had ever imagined that dying your hair in two different colors would be totally cool. Sometimes looking at new trends I imagine what if I did this a few years back people would have laughed at me and I would have been the odd one out. The one thing I love about fashion is that whatever is inn is accepted lets stand if it is blue eyeliner' spiked clothes or torn jeans. I also highly appreciate the the new trend of going vintage. Digging out old things and makinf them a fashion statement is amazing way of recreating things. One of the people who I think is absolutely great at it is Fashion vlogger Dina Tokio. Vintage trends are also being revived and coming back like red lips' high buns and round glasses everything we have seen in old pictures and movies. Everything is coming back now I think no one should ever throw away anything it might come back after a few years and be very valuable.
Although everyone has a personal style but somewhere everyone follows trends. New trends influence everyone, you can not say I don't follow fashion i just wear anything because no matter where you buy your clothes from it is linked back to one or the other runway design or some on going new trend. So escaping from fashion is impossible and why should you is there anything more fun????

summer 2013 trends:

• Cropped trousers and Jackets.
• Graphics (monochrome striped' squares' checkerboard prints etc).
• Neon bright kicks.
• Laduree colors (fondent pink' baby blue' spearmint'violet' lemon)
• NEON
• Low slung ponytails and buns.
• Filled in brows

Desires so many that I will die but my desires wont.

Hazaaro Khvaahishe asii ki har khvaahish pe dam nikle

bahut nikle mere armaan lekin phir bhii kam nikle

 

 

Meaning: I have a thousand desires, all desires worth dying for

Though many of my desires were fulfilled, majority remained unfullfilled

Khvaahish: Desire

 

Poem By Mirza Ghalib

 

 

This is one of my favorite poems as this kinda sums up the existance of human life which  is all about desires.We have a million desires everyday from the time we born till the day we die. Some of our desires get fulfilled while others don't. With passage of time many more desires add to the long list. Even after the fulfillment of a lot of our desires we are never completely satisfied as there are still a lot of our unfulfilled desires.So we always greeding for more and more. There is no end to this, you get one thing and you already looking forward to another. As human nature we forget about the desires we got and always run after what we didn't get. In journey of life we always look at thing we didn't get instead of being thankful for what we got. Even when we raise our hands to pray to God we might forget to ask for forgiveness but we never forget to desire for prosperity, desire for love, desire for faith etc. Everyday we living is spend in desire and this lust of desire only increases and there doesnt seem  to be an end to it until the day we die and we burried with our thousands of unfulfilled desires. 

Tie yourself to someone to make sure you don't fly away!

In my life I have always tied myself to someone in order to feel balanced. Since I have remembered I have jumped from one relationship into another. In the mean time I have only come to breaking someones heart or having a broken heart myself. In between I made some amazing memories but the brutal end always made things bitter. At a lot of levels I admit it was my fault, my opinions and views are so strong about things and life that I become rigid and its almost impossible for me to change them. Of course it takes a proper man to handle such a girl which I unfortunately haven't come across. But beside this I have also the ability to attach myself too much to someone give my 100% to a relation. So when things don't work out its hard for me to let go and detach myself. In the process of letting go I do so much harm to myself that sometimes it takes months to heal my bruised self.
So after a lot of failed attempts I decided to not tie myself and for once let myself fly away. Have time to know who I am as a person and not how I am in a relation to another person. This freedom has brought up a lot of change in me it taught me to appreciate myself. It gave me the space and time for me and only me. Finishing things I always wanted to do without being judged or criticized. This doesnt mean I dont believe in love anymore I completely do it just means I am waiting this time for the right one I won't embrace anything life throws at me for once ill be a little careful. It might not guarantee that now I will find myself the perfect one. But I will know who I am and what I deserve.

Staying hung up on ex, ain't nobody got time for that. ;)

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Motivations

        I recently read about intrinsic and extrinsic motivation and it got me thinking what really works. I'll start with defining both of them,
        Intrinsic motivation: the motivation that comes from within and not from money or any other reward. Motivation comes from task itself, by completing the task perfectly motivation is aroused. It doesn’t mean that no reward is involved only they are not enough to motivate. 
        Extrinsic motivation: this is the motivation that comes from external factors; it’s more like work in return for a reward. Bonuses, pay raise or other perks motivate. 
        In my opinion extrinsic motivation does work but only in short run, it will work for a few months to max a year. You can definitely easily be motivated by the paycheck getting at the end of every month but not for long. After a while you get use to the money and the void for motivation is still there, you start thinking that maybe your pay is too less and desire an increase or want a bonus to look forward to but this motivation won't make you get to work happily every day. 
        On the other hand if you attach you motivation to intrinsic things it will definitely last way longer. if you tend to be motivated with achieving a deadline and finishing you work you will be eager to work more. If your motivation lies in appreciation from your peers it will make you work better every time. Maybe you can be motivated by a good environment at work with good colleagues. Freedom of working on your own pace and in your own time is also a good motivator and it will make you even beyond the 9-5 shift. If you know your trusted ad valued at your job you feel like its your own work. All this can initiate intrinsic motivation which will come from within you and stay much longer. Everyday you will look forward to work. 
        So one should always look out for anything to tie intrinsic instead extrinsic motivations to be able to love what you do and keep loving it for a long time. 

A poem I understood

I've seen castles made out of sand,
Met people who believe destiny is engraved on the palm of their hands,
I've seen people change their faith,
Experienced love change into hate,
I've seen people grow younger with age,
And a bird who wouldn't fly out of an open cage,
I've seen love sold for money,
People who are devastated
inside but outside they're funny,
I've seen the unicorn fall in love with the toad,
People who owned half the city have now hit the road,
I've learned to expect the unexpected,
Perfection doesn't exist, we're all defected,
Everyone crys,some just hide their tears,
They say coal turns diamond over a thousand years,
Someone may believe u are one in a million,
For others u are just another nobody in the billion.

Poet: unknown