Tie yourself to someone to make sure you don't fly away!

In my life I have always tied myself to someone in order to feel balanced. Since I have remembered I have jumped from one relationship into another. In the mean time I have only come to breaking someones heart or having a broken heart myself. In between I made some amazing memories but the brutal end always made things bitter. At a lot of levels I admit it was my fault, my opinions and views are so strong about things and life that I become rigid and its almost impossible for me to change them. Of course it takes a proper man to handle such a girl which I unfortunately haven't come across. But beside this I have also the ability to attach myself too much to someone give my 100% to a relation. So when things don't work out its hard for me to let go and detach myself. In the process of letting go I do so much harm to myself that sometimes it takes months to heal my bruised self.
So after a lot of failed attempts I decided to not tie myself and for once let myself fly away. Have time to know who I am as a person and not how I am in a relation to another person. This freedom has brought up a lot of change in me it taught me to appreciate myself. It gave me the space and time for me and only me. Finishing things I always wanted to do without being judged or criticized. This doesnt mean I dont believe in love anymore I completely do it just means I am waiting this time for the right one I won't embrace anything life throws at me for once ill be a little careful. It might not guarantee that now I will find myself the perfect one. But I will know who I am and what I deserve.

Staying hung up on ex, ain't nobody got time for that. ;)

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Motivations

        I recently read about intrinsic and extrinsic motivation and it got me thinking what really works. I'll start with defining both of them,
        Intrinsic motivation: the motivation that comes from within and not from money or any other reward. Motivation comes from task itself, by completing the task perfectly motivation is aroused. It doesn’t mean that no reward is involved only they are not enough to motivate. 
        Extrinsic motivation: this is the motivation that comes from external factors; it’s more like work in return for a reward. Bonuses, pay raise or other perks motivate. 
        In my opinion extrinsic motivation does work but only in short run, it will work for a few months to max a year. You can definitely easily be motivated by the paycheck getting at the end of every month but not for long. After a while you get use to the money and the void for motivation is still there, you start thinking that maybe your pay is too less and desire an increase or want a bonus to look forward to but this motivation won't make you get to work happily every day. 
        On the other hand if you attach you motivation to intrinsic things it will definitely last way longer. if you tend to be motivated with achieving a deadline and finishing you work you will be eager to work more. If your motivation lies in appreciation from your peers it will make you work better every time. Maybe you can be motivated by a good environment at work with good colleagues. Freedom of working on your own pace and in your own time is also a good motivator and it will make you even beyond the 9-5 shift. If you know your trusted ad valued at your job you feel like its your own work. All this can initiate intrinsic motivation which will come from within you and stay much longer. Everyday you will look forward to work. 
        So one should always look out for anything to tie intrinsic instead extrinsic motivations to be able to love what you do and keep loving it for a long time. 

A poem I understood

I've seen castles made out of sand,
Met people who believe destiny is engraved on the palm of their hands,
I've seen people change their faith,
Experienced love change into hate,
I've seen people grow younger with age,
And a bird who wouldn't fly out of an open cage,
I've seen love sold for money,
People who are devastated
inside but outside they're funny,
I've seen the unicorn fall in love with the toad,
People who owned half the city have now hit the road,
I've learned to expect the unexpected,
Perfection doesn't exist, we're all defected,
Everyone crys,some just hide their tears,
They say coal turns diamond over a thousand years,
Someone may believe u are one in a million,
For others u are just another nobody in the billion.

Poet: unknown

Happy endings, a rarity.....

I am at a point of life where people ask me what I want to do further in my life and I stare at them with blankness. It's a good question, but just something I can't answer. In life I have jumped from one goal to another which now left me with no goal at all. I don't think a good job that pays well is a goal, that is a necessity. A kind of necessity we have made compulsory on ourselves. Even if we don't want to, a good paying job has become an priority. We have needs and they need to be fulfilled. Somewhere to fit in this expensive' competitive world we have tied our goals to our needs instead of our wants. How many people wake up in the morning happy about going to work not many, why? because what they work for is to fulfill a need. From the start of our career every choice we make is unintentionally tied to what is the right thing to do. Right thing that will earn us money enough to live comfortably, in the long run a nice house, a good car, overall security. This security doesn't only come with comforts for ourself it comes with acceptance in world. Very rare lucky people don't worry about the acceptance and do what their heart desires. They run free of the bounds of needs, labeled as the wild ones. These wild people have a goal to do something their heart desires and which might not give them the comforts the world offers, but these people are the ones that wake up every morning with a smile to start a new day of doing what they want. Thats what I call a goal. So as long as I don't know that goal I will keep giving everyone the blank stare of confusion.